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I know this blog is listed under the category of "friends" but I did not see one for "famiy".............
How many people here have to go through the whole family christmas get together, the same old ritualistic thing that happens every year..........Fortunately I only have one family function to attend. I also just learned that my grandmother is also going to be there, nothing personal but i really really hate that woman, she`s just some woman that gave birth to my mother and two aunts.......
She is now and always has been a very mean and spitfeul old woman, even when my mother was a child this woman would treat her own children like crap, she treated my grandfather like crap, he just stuck it out for the sake of his children......He passed on a year and 3 days ago which left that woman alone by herself living on the east coast. With three daughters two of them not wishing to have anything to do with her it was left up to my mother........so with many trips from Ontario to New Brunswick every weekend I either flew or drove there to help her pack things up so that she could relocate to Ontario just 18 km`s up the road so that she would be closer to family and we could all check in on her, help our, run errands, etc.....
Her moving to Ontario was something she wanted to do so we helped, we paid the 8000.0 it cost to move her belongings here, we lost countless hours of much needed sleep driving back and forth or flying every weekend until the day she arrived. Ever since she arrived she`s done nothing but whine, complain, cry in her beer ( rye whickey in her case) and wish she had never moved here and that of she could afford it she would move right back to New Brunswick where her only 2 friends were.......proving she cares more about her friends that will not always be there than her own family that would always be there for her.
Last I spoke with her I simply had enough when I over heard her chastise my sister stating my sister is a bad mother because both she and her husband both work instead of my sister being at home with their three daughters, their children are all in school for starters, furthermore in todays society two incomes are very much needed to sustain a family household. Upon hearing that I couldn`t help it, I blasted her told her tha tif she hated it here that much I would pay her damned way back to New brunswick just so long as it means she`s shut the hell up.
She has always come down on me for the profession I chose, she wanted me to be some sucessful lawyer, many people tell me I should have been a lawyer but that isn`t who I am, I`m happy building things, besides I make a damned good living at it, hell my father being an aircraft engineer doesn`t make as much per year as I do and all I do is build nuclear reactors, if I make an error it is cought right away where as if my father makes an error and an aircraft goes down there`s hundreds of lives at stake, but even with earning a good income she`s still not satisfied and will never be happy for me let alone proud of me. For her the biggest thing for her was when I became a member of Lions International but only because my Grandfather was also a Lion.
Recently I realized that my Grandfater hadn`t passed away, he`s gone into hiding...I wouldn`t blame him either if that were the case, I live just 18 km`s from her and I cringe with the mere thought of her wanting to kiss me i can`t imagine how he felt.
But for the sake of my mother I did promise her I would put my personal feelings aside for the holidays, I will of course treat the old lady with respect, I will not go out of my way to accomidate her but I will be civil and I know it will be damned hard to pretend that I like her but I must think of my mother.....
How many here have to endure yet another "family Christmas" one they really do not wish to attend or know there will be somebod there they don`t care for? I know there has to be at least one other person......we can`t all be members of the "The Brady Bunch" or the "Cleavers" with "Leave it to Beaver"....A perfect family is non existant, just ask Operah or Dr. Phil. We are all members of a disfunctional family to one degree. |
